Being hurt is not “less than”, it’s just “part of”.

I read a quote on Instagram recently that Seerut K. Chawla posted. She said, “Be careful your healing isn’t just perfectionism in disguise.” We want so much to feel better, to do better, to be better. And that’s all good work. But implied in that is often the message that we aren’t good with who we are right now. So many of us feel that thinking we aren’t good enough is good motivation to change and to get better. IF that worked, I’d teach that all over the place. But the reality is, that it doesn’t work, or if it does, it only works temporarily.

What happens when I get irritated with my kids, and then I think and start saying to myself, “Amy, you’re so dumb! You know you shouldn’t yell at your kids. Why are you doing this again?!” After I’ve been saying these things for awhile, I often don’t feel like going in and loving on my kids. I actually feel pretty crappy and just want to go up in my room and watch something or read something by myself. And when I’m on edge, when they come in and want something, I’m almost more likely to snap at them again. So, the negative self-talk starts again.

The truth is, we are all human. We all get triggered.

We’re not better when we figure that out and heal- the truth is, we just know a few more things.

What if we aren’t “getting better”? What if we are just growing, or maybe even better- evolving? Being hurt isn’t wrong. Being hurt isn’t less than. It’s just part of. Just part of being human. Just part of growing.

We don’t have to hate who we are to evolve and grow. We wouldn’t get to grow unless we felt and noticed the hurt. We can love the person we are now who is offering these ways for us to grow.

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